It is every parents nightmare to find out that you teenager may be afflicted with some form of addiction to drugs or alcohol. But if this happens to you, it’s important to stay calm so that you can have the presence of mind to support your child through this process. While it is important to find some outside help by getting some counseling for your teenager, here are a few suggestions you can use to implement on your own:
1. Get yourself educated on addiction and drugs
Understand the science that is behind addiction and abuse, make a research on the drugs which are in your area and its availability, which of the drugs is being abused by your teen, the addictions signs you should for, each of the drugs street names, likewise its effects. The better you understand abuse, drugs, addiction and withdrawal the easier you will be able to assist your teen to overcome it.
2. Get to know your child’s friends
If a person is abusing alcohol or drugs it’s very likely that the person friends are doing so as well. Most of the times when the teens start to use drugs, friends who aren’t doing such would not be hanged out with again, and they get drawn to those friends who does.
Have a talk with the kids who come visiting in your house. It’s very easy for you to bring up an excuse for you to go inside the room where they are. Collect dishes or laundry, make snacks, and search for your cell phone that is missing, and so on.
Should incase their friends won’t come in order not to have a talk with you, try and find the reason. If you realize that they are making use of drugs, don’t let them back into your house. Though you can’t be able to have control on things that goes on when it’s outside of your house, give an explanation to your teen the reason why you don’t believe they should keep hanging with that person or friends.
3. Build a better relationship with your teen
Teens need the attention and love of their parents. Create some time to talk and sit with them every day. Make sure you listen, most especially. Listen very well in order for them to be able to open up. You enabling your teens to be able to tell you everything will help in building a relationship on trust which would be of great benefits to both of you.
Keep reminding them that they are loved very much. Let them understand that if you give way for substance abuse to take their lives over, you won’t be able forgive yourself. Let them know that it might be kind of upsetting for them saying all these, it’s because you love and cared about them deeply that’s why you doing this.
4. Do not resort to threats or yelling
If you get too angry to have a discussion with your teen, just walk away calmly and quietly. It has been known that threatening, yelling, lecturing, and screaming doesn’t really work in general with teenagers so you are going to need to learn how to be stern yet calm.
There are several ways to achieve results which you desire without you yelling. For example, assuming they need a ride to get to their friend’s house, you can simply say, “I will give you a ride there after the trash has been taken out by you.” Or better still “you can have your friends over when your room gets cleaned up first”. These kinds of statements yield better results instead of threatening or yelling.
5. Don’t go it alone
Search for a therapist for your teen on substance abuse who has got experience when it comes to teen addiction. If it doesn’t work out with the first one, search again. It might take you some time before you get the one you want. The counselor that is right for your teen would male huge difference in overcoming the addiction.
Put in mind, that your children need you to get strong and assist them in the direction that is right.