Outgrowing Our Old Life

We will outgrow people, situations, behaviors, thoughts, and beliefs as we grow. Not everyone will make it over into our new life. It doesn’t mean anything was wrong with them. It just means that their part in your life story is over. We are going to outgrow our old life. We will meet new people who now play a role in our new story. You might take a lot of flak for moving forward; however, you must do what is best for your life and growth. We are individually responsible for the development of ourselves and our lives. We need to become leaders of our own life. That means we are accountable for the things, situations, and people that come into our lives. We will outgrow certain kinds of conversations, thoughts that no longer serve us, and behaviors that do not bring about growth in our lives.

Your destiny is never tied to anyone walking away from your life. Neither is anyone’s destiny tied up to you walking away from them. No matter who is walking away, we must respect people’s decision to move on. If we realize that too much drama is going on in our lives and keeping us stuck, we must remove ourselves from whatever is causing that drama, even if it is us. We cannot continue keeping ourselves anywhere that does not bring about growth and development.

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There comes a time when we need to take a deeper look at our life and see if where we are is where we truly desire to be. It will also take deep strength and commitment to growth for us to walk away from a life that is only causing us to break down more and more. That is not healthy. Every individual deserves to live a life that is abundant and prosperous. We can’t live that life if there is chaos in our life. We block our ability to tune into our abundance if our life is not emotionally healthy and free. Everything that comes into our lives serves a purpose, a reason, and healing. However, not everything that comes into our life is meant to be in our life forever. Problems occur when we try to force others to be in our lives. If someone says they need space, then honor that request. If someone is walking away from you, let them go. They are not your prisoner.

We are born free. Free to be where we desire to be, make decisions about where our life is going, and live a life of happiness, stress-free and safe. No one should threaten another person’s life just because they are walking away from them. That is not a healthy way to live. Life goes on, and we need to let our lives flow. We also have a responsibility to not let anyone hold us hostage, in any way. That means we should never give anyone the power to keep us hostage mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and physically.

I was born into abuse. So, I grew up knowing a life filled with violence, sickness, anger, unhappiness, manipulation, mind control, and all the other disgusting things that come with abuse. However, amid all that darkness, I experienced love, light, happiness, and freedom. There were angels in the form of people during my teenage years who showed interest in me, cared about me, gave me strength, and instilled values in me. Those few years were a godsend. That was what I held onto during the darkest hours of my life. It is why, at age 19, I could gather the strength to move out of the darkness to save my life. I vowed never to let my life be subjected to that kind of darkness. I needed more for my life, and to get more, I had to make some hard decisions, knowing full well that I would not get any support for my decisions. However, when I decided to move out, many more angels were sent to save my life. Many of those angels are no longer in my life because their part in my story has ended, but their kind deeds have kept me going and influenced me to be someone else’s angel. That is how I strive to live my life every day.

While I will let my life guide me to where I need to go, I will not let live in general carry me along. Every day, I take inventory of myself, my life, and where I am. If I don’t like it, I take steps to take my life differently. I once heard something that I now call a parable: “You will walk down a road, and there is a hole that you fall into. You climb out of it and continue your Journey. The next day, you walk down the same road, but you know ,about the hole this time, so you walk around it. The third time, you walk down a different road”. It is the same thing in our lives. We need to be actively paying attention to our lives to see if there is something that we will fall into. If we don’t see it in time, when we find ourselves in the middle of such a situation, we remove ourselves from that situation and then decide to walk a different Path.

We can’t be in the same thing repeatedly without stopping to take stock of our lives and where it is going. It doesn’t matter if you feel that someone has betrayed you, stabbed you in the back, in the front, or whatever it is. Take care of your mental, emotional, and spiritual health by removing your life away from that person. That person may not feel that they did anything wrong. Don’t get caught up trying to get them to acknowledge their behavior and force them to apologize. You cannot live another person’s life for them. You have got to live and pay attention to your own life. It also means that that person does not belong in your life. Release them so they can continue living their life Journey, and free up yourself so that you can live your life based on your values and morals. This has nothing to do with whose values and morals are wrong or right. Your values and morals are unique to you,; if they work for you, continue. If other people’s values and morals clash with yours, then those are not the people to have in your life. Don’t argue with people about who is right and who is wrong. Live your life in a way that brings you happiness, freedom, and joy.

Albert Einstein said, “We can’t solve problems using the same thinking we used when we created them.” We can’t enact changes in our lives if we have the same thinking that brought us into an unhealthy situation. We need to change our thinking, and inevitably, the people in our lives will change, too. Each individual has the right to travel their path, and it doesn’t make one person better than the other. We are all human beings, so we are all equal. We all get the same amount of time in a day, a week, and a year; however, we use that time that is given to us, which is important. Wanting a better life is praiseworthy. Always seeking ways to improve yourself is praiseworthy. Seeking ways to help others is commendable. So don’t allow anyone to negate your life’s purpose and goals. The world needs more Leaders. It needs people willing to go the extra distance to help in any way they can. So, don’t allow anything to hold you back. While you can use your past to strengthen and fortify you and use it to motivate you, your destiny is not tied to your history. Don’t allow your history to prevent you from moving forward. The time is the present, and you can now step into your Greatness.

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